I saw someone put the issue with mainstream sex positive feminism like this, and I think it’s the best way I’ve seen the issue put
Patriarchal standards for women’s sexuality is a two headed beast. One head is the puritanical shaming of women’s sexuality, the pressure for women to be pure and abstinent that views female expressions of sexuality as immoral. But then you get the other head, the porny hypersexualization of women, where sexual objectification comes from, the expectation to put on this performative hypersexuality to appease the male gaze and be sexually pleasing (visually and physically) and alluring for men. I think a lot of young women and modern feminists think the answer is to cut off just the first head, and that the second head is gonna save them or they’ll find their freedom in the second head. But nah, the second head will still destroy you and consume you the second it gets a chance. You gotta cut off both heads and kill the whole beast to really liberate women’s sexuality from patriarchy.
So this is just a PSA, y'all should never sign a contract until you read it. I’m talking in rl right now. I just got through reading my employee handbook/service contract and my bosses slipped in a lot of bullshit like telling me I can’t complain about my job on social media, demanding I work off the clock in the name of good service, expects me to show up on time during inclimate weather, and considered disability or religious accommodation a direct threat to the company.
These are all things I took issue with and brought to my employer for further discussion before signing the contract. Most of my coworkers signed without reading, treating it like an internet terms of service contract.
Tl;dr real life is serious shit, lawyers write contracts to protect your employer FROM YOU, read contracts before you sign them - fucking ARGUE about contracts before you sign them
Also important to note, and something my bf has repeated to me many times: a contract is a negotiation until it is signed, and YOU ARE ALLOWED TO AMEND IT. Tech companies often put some bs in there about “we own everything you make while you work for us” which broadly applied also means anything done on your own time. He always ALWAYS does write-in amendments with initial and date to state that they only own things done FOR the company, on company time, because there have been companies that enforced that bullshit when somebody had a personal side project the company decided they wanted to steal. There’s only one company that threw a fit at his attempts to amend it and he considered that a huge red flag and refused to sign, turned down the job.
Never. EVER. Sign shit without reading it. Also: if your prospective employer won’t let you take the thing home to read before you sign it and says you need to sign it then and there THAT IS A RED FLAG. The job I had that turned out to be abusive as shit was like that. Every other job I’ve been able to bring the contract home to my parents to have a more experienced set of eyes on it. It’s also common practice in some fields to have one’s attorney look over it before signing. So never let them tell you that you can’t look over it with someone else. That’s a fat load of shit. For “lower level” jobs they may not accept amendments to the contract but if they won’t even give you the proper time to read it over, they’re trying to pull some bullshit on you and you’re going to regret it if you sign. Even if there’s nothing bad in what you signed it’s an example of how they are going to treat you while you’re there. Take it to heart and run like fucking hell.
Please also tell your coworkers. Inform others. Tell everyone. Please, for the lovee of everything TELL PEOPLE THEY ARE ALLOWED TO DO THESE THINGS.
Companies BANK on the fact you’re not going to read it. Then they slip in shit like ‘you can’t talk about your wages’ because they want you to keep quiet, so thy can pay that guy six bucks, and pay the guy over there fifteen and pay you eight. They want you to accept it all blindly. PLEASE DON’T STAY BLIND.
Yes, I’ve lost out on jobs because I wanted to read it and they didn’t want me to. Or they wanted m to resign and I said no to to the things they added that I pointed out were unfair and borderline illegal.
Read shit. Tell everyone else to read shit. BE INFORMED.
Absolutely 100% good advice ☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼
Never ever ever sign shit without reading and re-reading it! Take it home, show it to someone more experienced, if you can, show it to a lawyer. A contract is supposed to work for both sides. A company in Toronto tried to make me sign a contract with clause that in event of me leaving the job I will not work in a similar position anywhere in Ontario. Yeah, right, not enforceable in court, dudes, you can’t prevent me from making a living. Read the shit and don’t let them intimidate you.
Every time you think “they could have hurt me worse”, remember that you shouldn’t have been hurt at all. You should have received support and help on everything you struggled with. You should never have faced pain from the hands of your loved ones. You should have been safe and happy and without a care in the world as a child. That’s what you compare your abuse to.
“40 is good, 50 is great, 60 is fab, and 70 is fucking awesome!” ~ Helen Mirren 💪🏻
missed some greats!
I can’t believe Julie Andrews is not on this list guys.
“It’s fucking outrageous. It’s ridiculous. And ’twas ever thus. We all watched James Bond as he got more and more geriatric, and his girlfriends got younger and younger. It’s so annoying.” - Helen Mirren on the bullshit that is (sexist) ageism (source)
Whenever you need a positive role model to help you remember that aging is NATURAL, aging is BEAUTIFUL, there is NOTHING WRONG with aging, and if you’re LUCKY will you live long enough to experience it – look long and hard at every single one of these these Queens.
LOOK. AT. THEM.
Go ladies!
Might I add
Rekha
Hema Malini
Shabana Azmi
Asha Parekh
Rita Moreno
Many women have talked about how amazing life is after your 40s. Some have their happiest years in their 70s. We need to stop believing society when it tells us our lives are over when we reach 35.
I was at our local bakery recently and came across a loaf of bread quaintly branded as a “Peasant Loaf”. It was selling for over $6—the irony of this was not lost on me.
In retaliation I have decided to post what I actually think of as a peasant loaf, but with the luxury of finely ground modern flour which is less likely to break your teeth because actual peasant loaf bread is like chewing rocks unless you’re soaking it in soup or stew.
This is a very simple loaf, it requires no special tools and is a fairly forgiving dough for beginners to work with. Also it has the added bonus of looking like an expensive artisan loaf, but costs literal pennies to make once you invest in the basic ingredients.
So what do you need?
Ingredients:
Plain flour (or wholewheat if you prefer)
One sachet of active dry yeast.
Salt.
Water.
Tools:
Bowl
Mug
Prep and bake time total: 2 hours 45 minutes.
Yep, that’s it. You’ll notice that there’s no quantities listed up there, and that’s because you’ll be using the mug to measure everything. This helps to make sure your quantities are consistent, and means that so long as you have a mug and your ingredients, you can make bread. Heck you don’t even need a bowl, it just makes clean up easier.
Again I had Elusive Tumblr Dad help me take the photos so be warned this is going to be fairly image heavy under the cut :D
@thebibliosphere Fair warning, I’ve posted a link to this to the National Park Employee facebook group for my fellow funemployment recipients. If you get a sudden following of salty park rangers, that is why.
This is the best thing anyone could have ever told me. Thank you hahah
Y’all fucking remember when he said
“If someone tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t”?
Now he’s out there making transphobic jokes and appealing to the right wing crowd. Look out for fake woke assholes.
Fuck Louis CK forever. No redemption. No forgiveness.
Wow…his true colors really have come to light in a big way post sexual assault revelations haven’t they? It used to pay for him to be “woke” so he was, now it doesn’t, and the only people who would accept him aren’t, so he isn’t.
So, saying this As A White Person - one of the things I wish we could take away from this as a lesson is that white people shouldn’t be looking to other straight white men, for our “wokeness”. Because at best, it’s often filtered through the lens of their experience, and at worst, it’s performative bullshit.
If there’s any 2019 resolution we should be making, it should be leaning into media that makes us question our white privilege more. Let’s go listen to PoC, women, LGBTQIA+ and other creators.
People like Roseanne and Louis CK are a lesson in how you can redpill yourself into being a right-wing hateful bigot by getting to a place where you don’t question your own mistakes, your own behavior, your own morals on the regular. Doubly-so when you get older and decide that somehow, you’re done learning - that seems to be when the rot creeps in.
I’m fourty-fucking-five years old, and I damn well do my best to stay connected to what people half my age are saying and doing because there’s this point where, when we decide we’re done learning, we just turn into this echo chamber. And that’s when that sneering divide comes along that right-wing hate-media loves to exploit.
You’re not supposed to stop growing until you stop breathing.
Oh, and because it bears repeating, Fuck Louis CK.
Louis CK asked people he worked with to watch him touch his sick but people asking to be called “them” is where he draws the line? Cool.
